The Derrière or The Face?

In the summer of 2016 I wrote a blog post on my decision to completely give up sugar, entitled “Sugar The Sweet Poison of All.”  With the exception of fruit and my Sugar Polish I was pretty much committed. I thought I had found one of the most elusive secrets of life. Well as the ole saying goes, “When you get older, you have to be ready to trade your ass for your face” ~ a comment made by French actress Catherine Deneuve, turns out to be quite true.

Seems there’s a flip side to every dang thang, including giving up sugar! Geez Louise, can a woman get a break?  Apparently not! What I hadn’t anticipated was the amount of weight I would loose and the impact this would have.  When I began removing sugar from my diet, I was at a comfortable weight and was not looking to loose weight, just maintain where I was. But as the weeks and months rolled by the pounds began to shed.

Initially I didn’t think much of it, but seven months later I came to realize, the lack of sugar has caused a slimness in my face that made me understand why Hollywood types resort to Botox. It’s to plump things up. At a certain age in a woman’s life (50 and above) the decision to try to attain a weight too low for her, will cause a sacrifice of a pleasing plumpness, particularly in the face. This plumpness offers a more youthful appearance. As per usual, Mother Nature knows best.  She (your female reproductive system) has women gaining weight at this stage for a number of reasons.

Many women experience an increase and or a redistribution of weight once they begin menopause. At this phase in a woman’s life she needs to have a certain amount of fat on her bones, literally.  This not only to look good, but because this fat is filled with estrogen, replacing the estrogen that is no longer being produced by ovulation. This new fat is literally protecting our bones, providing a cushion for the increased fragility of bones at this chapter of womanhood.

I had gained a considerable amount of weight when I first started menopause, but then rapidly lost it due to stress; which is the worse way to loose weight. It’s not a good look. The lack of sugar did not help matters. That is why when I arrived in Dubai one of the first things I told my hosts, was that I wanted to gain weight. And they fed me well!!! It’s also easier to gain weight on vacation because we’re not as busy and less likely to skip meals.

When I spoke with my massage therapist, Ajah Wolfe, who is also a licensed acupuncturist and herbalist about this loss of weight, he shared that not only does sugar have a warming affect on the body, but it naturally plumps things up. The warming affect is what causes all kinds of inflammation. I hadn’t given up fruits and never will, but I had given up most every other kind of sweet including most fruit juices. The great thing about fruit is that it is comprised of both sugar and fiber.  The fiber assists with the natural breakdown and processing of the sugar.

In the case of refined sugar, there is no fiber so the sugar goes directly into the blood stream causing a number of negative side affects. Ajah shared that sugar damages the spleen and causes dampness and phlegm in the body– dampness obstructs natural flood of energy, of blood (the elixir of life) and of circulation. Other serious dampness related maladies include muddy thoughts that lead to depression and insanity, edema, and diabetics problems are associated with dampness accumulation. Cataracts, is an accumulation of phlegm on the eyes. Chinese Medicine is deep and I won’t go further with this but hopefully you get the picture.

So I asked him then what is the answer if eating sugar is bad and not eating sugar is not good either. He replied that things change and that is the problem with Western Medicine, it just lumps things in large categories, without the nuances being considered. In Chinese Medicine, the whole person is taken into account with a realization that we are constantly changing and so should remedies be adjusted and changed. A remedy that is working for you may only be good for only a few weeks or few months, not indefinitely. In the end you get to decide whether to allow your derrière to grow, which allows that natural plumpness, which has its own kind of beauty, or to work off all that fat and lose face. Don’t get me wrong, I am not saying not to work out, just no extremes, everything in moderation, more strength building and stretching, less aerobics. That’s a note to self.  And you can never say, I didn’t tell you. I just wish someone had warned me.


2018-03-06T17:56:39+00:00 Health & Wellness|17 Comments


  1. Robin Fisher February 21, 2017 at 2:43 pm - Reply

    Good article. Answers some of my questions about why i gained weight. I have stopped eating sugar recently due to pre-diabetes diagnosis and was considering starting a running program because I can’t seem to drop the weight. Maybe I need to access the situation more.

    • anu February 21, 2017 at 3:50 pm - Reply

      Yes Robin, After my experience, I would say do your homework before changing anything, especially since you are dealing with pre-diabetes. Let me know how it goes.

  2. Gina Nelson February 21, 2017 at 3:37 pm - Reply

    Thank you for passing on this valuable knowledge!

    • anu February 21, 2017 at 3:51 pm - Reply

      My pleasure Gina! Thank you for taking the time to know this is of value to you.

  3. Carolyn Grimstead February 21, 2017 at 5:39 pm - Reply

    Yes giving up sugar does do the job of dropping weight. And past menopause your body’s shape shifts.
    Upper arms tend to flab (envy Michelle Obama) and the face thins as does hair (yikes!!). However, the Internet shares beet (the vegetable) recipes for sweet substitutes and don’t forget maple sugar. You don’t HAVE to return to sugar. Cardio exercises help with the flab (and energy), but the hair loss? Heredity is part of it. Any suggestions you guys?

    • Melissa February 21, 2017 at 8:30 pm - Reply

      Have you tried strength training? Check to see if you can google Mrs. Obama’s workout or try youtube. I know she lift heavier weights for her arms. Weight lifting is where it is at! Good luck 🙂

    • anu February 21, 2017 at 8:31 pm - Reply

      Hi Carolyn!!! You can tone things up with weights. Resistance training really works. But that’s if that’s a goal of yours, it may not be. It terms of the sugar, I am going at it slowly. I don’t want to become the addict I was. All things in moderation is my new mantra.

      In terms of hair loss I would really recommend booking an appointment to see our Trichologist, Taeisha. She is not only well educated on hair and scalp issues, she will tell you the truth about what is possible. And she will also make recommendations for styling options that you can choose from. As our client who has been with us the longest, I believe since 1980, this consultation will be gratis. Please call soon. Much love and Thanks for weighing in.

  4. Melissa February 21, 2017 at 7:31 pm - Reply

    Thank you Anu! The model is very pretty, so are you. From my experience, it is best to have sugar in moderation. I tried to eliminate it from my diet but it is so hard to do. My mind was always on sweets! I have been the same weight for years trying to drop 10 lbs but the scale won’t budge. I decided to eat more fruits and greens and so far I dropped 2 lbs. Thank you Anu.

    • anu February 21, 2017 at 8:33 pm - Reply

      Haha! Melissa that’s so funny, the way you put it, that the scale won’t budge. I love that! Thank you so much for the compliment. I believe we are all reflections of one another, the beauty you see in me, is in you. Those two pounds, may they forever be lost. Exercise, eat right and you die anyway, so just enjoy.

  5. Elaine Williams February 22, 2017 at 5:04 am - Reply

    Thank you for this article. I totally agree that sugar really causes inflammation. Serious inflammation. I suffer from a bad back. 2 herniated disc in the lower lumbar. I went on a 20 days fruit and veggie meal plan cutting out all sugar and process food and I felt the best ever. My back pain totally went away. Now that I have reintroduced sugar back into my diet I can barely stand straight when getting up. Constant back pain. Reading your article is helpful to getting me back on the right track. Cutting out sugar again starting now. NAMASTE

    • anu February 22, 2017 at 10:31 am - Reply

      My pleasure Elaine! I have hurt my back on a couple of occasions lifting items way too heavy for me. Always doing heavy lifting… and the pain, but it went away. I cannot imagine the suffering of chronic back pain. I am delighted to know this piece has reignited a remedy that you have access to. All the best and let me know how it goes. Namaste!

  6. Ayesha Wallace February 22, 2017 at 8:39 am - Reply

    Hi Anu!

    Anu, Awesome piece! I try to listen to my body. When I’ve been really healthy with diet and exercise my body tells me to eat macaroni and cheese! Another day it might direct me to a protein shake, veggies and fruit. For the sake of everyone around me I quickly submit when it says , eat CHOCOLATE now ! Thanks for sharing your experience !

    • anu February 22, 2017 at 10:29 am - Reply

      Hilarious! You had me cracking up this morning. Thank you for that guttural release. I know you’re working it out. Keep up the good work. Looking forward to a workout with you. Hugs!

  7. Carla February 23, 2017 at 4:11 pm - Reply

    Turmeric caps or powder great for body pain and Amino Acids like Carnitine is great for turning fat into muscle while having resl sugar! Just my opinion!

    • anu February 23, 2017 at 4:26 pm - Reply

      Sounds like useful advice Carla. Thank you!

  8. Jaki Shelton Green March 2, 2017 at 11:04 am - Reply

    Anu! Thank you for being a healthy presence and guide for siSTARS. We are needed. We need each other. We are our siSTARS keepers… that’s my story and it’s working well for me.

    • anu March 2, 2017 at 11:11 am - Reply

      We are our Sister’s Keeper and that’s for sure. I am so blessed to have such a very special circle of sisters that I’ve known since my 20s who surround and support me and all my ventures. It’s great to meet new friends, Sisters who walk the same road are a part of the same tribe. I appreciate you Jaki!

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